The Tantus Acute lying on a platter.

Tantus Acute Review

The Tantus Acute standing upright.The Tantus Acute was a favourite of mine for a long time, and I think it is a wonderful beginner dildo. When I bought the Acute, I was looking for an everyday dildo. My regular rotation included the 1.75 inch diameter Tantus Cush, that I adored but was a bit overwhelming for everyday use, and the 1 inch diameter Fuze Velvet that was just a bit too small to be satisfying. I was drawn to the Acute for its curve and slight ridges, and for many months the Iroha Midori and the Acute were partners in crime. Sure, now they’ve been replaced with stronger and more earth-shattering (is there really another term for the Mustang?) counterparts, but there was a reason the Acute was my favourite for so long. It is simple, but still has some interesting features that can make it a real star.

A side view of the Tantus Acute.I think silicone is the best material for a first dildo, because it is body safe – both phthalate free and non-porous, so won’t leech chemicals or harbour bacteria – and soft enough to be a bit forgiving. Firmer materials like glass or steel can sometimes be a bit overwhelming with how intense the sensations they cause are. The Acute is made from standard density silicone, so it has a bit of give but still holds shape when squeezed. I think this nicely complements the curve the Acute is equipped with, which rocks up against my G spot. The shape is not a G spot missile or anything, but a medium amount of thrusting makes the head drag along the G spot. The head, which does the most dragging, is not intense. It isn’t much larger than the shaft, and doesn’t provide a popping sensation like something with a more mushroom-y head, like the Shilo, might. I personally like the popping sensation, so if you know that you’re really into that, this dildo might disappoint, but know that it still provides reasonable G spot stimulation. I don’t think I could have an internal orgasm from the Acute, and don’t think I could with most silicone dildos these days, but the Acute can add extra sensation to a mostly externally focused orgasm. G spots generally like a bit of pressure, so silicone of this firmness is a good middle ground if stainless steel or glass is going to be too intense for you. Thrusting is also easy with the Acute, because it is only 5 inches long, and doesn’t jab anything in my small vaginal canal.

The Tantus Acute lying on a platter.There are also ridges on the shaft of the Acute, which provides a subtle texture when thrusted. I quite enjoy ripple-type texture, but I find these ridges to be a bit too small to really add to the experience much. However, this is only a recent discovery, because when I first used the Acute I remember specifically remarking on the texture. That’s why I think the Acute could be a great introduction to texture – it’s not so intense that it would be grating like, say, the Tantus Bound, but there’s enough texture that you can work out if you want more. I feel the ridges more during insertion, as they pass through my vaginal entrance, than on my vaginal walls, so thrusting is key to really appreciating this texture.

Overall, this dildo is easy. It’s only 1.25 inches in diameter, so I don’t need to work up with it. It’s light, so I can thrust with it pretty easily. It doesn’t have intense texture or provide intense G spot stimulation, so I can use it regardless of what mood I’m in. If yesterday my G spot was pummeled into next year and I want to give it a rest? The Acute is a solid choice. My mental list for a beginner’s dildo is as follow: must be body safe and non-porous, must be equal to or smaller than 1.5 inches in diameter, must be shorter than 6 inches high, must be anal safe and harness compatible. The Acute does all these things, and adds a curve and a bit of texture to boot. This dildo doesn’t have to have all the bells and whistles, it can just be good, and I am certain that it is.

If you’re interested in buying a Tantus Acute, you can find one at my favourite stores:  Tantus (US), SheVibe (US)

The njoy Pure Wand in its box

njoy Pure Wand Review

The njoy Pure Wand next to my handThe njoy Pure Wand is larger than life. I’d read rave reviews of it for years before I bought it, and the first thing I noticed was that it was much smaller than I had imagined. It’s like meeting a celebrity and being shocked at how short they are – there is such a charged presence to them, that it’s jarring when they don’t fit your inflated sense of them. However, the Pure Wand, unlike meeting your favourite celebrity, is just as good as it is promised to be.

The Pure Wand has spawned a lot of copycat toys, which is a testament to its notoriety. As far as I know, though, the Pure Wand is the only toy in this smiley shape that is made of stainless steel. Stainless steel is hard, hefty, safe, and sexy. I have a bit of a burgeoning metal kink,  and the Pure Wand is definitely helping that take form.The design is simple, but sleek in its simplicity. The shininess is enticing, and can act as an impromptu vulva mirror if you’re in need of that sort of thing. There’s some kind of prehistoric urge that makes us attracted to shiny things, and the Pure Wand is no exception. When you pull it out of the satin-lined box, the first thing you notice is the weight. Having something so heavy that it almost feels imbued with intention is really hot, in my opinion. There’s no forgetting what you’re holding, or what’s inside of you. This weightiness means that the Pure Wand really follows through on it’s thrusts. A slight tilt will feel magnified because there is no give to the metal. I really enjoy how cool it feels against my skin, as well as the heat it picks up after I’ve fucked myself with it. The curve is also ingenious, because it finds my G spot without much help and sticks right into it.

The larger end of the njoy Pure WandWhat do orgasms with the Pure Wand feel like? They feel strong, wave like, and broad. After testosterone, I found that my orgasms became more localised. Whereas before hormones orgasms rolled all through my body, I mostly feel them just in my genital area nowadays. However, with the Pure Wand, I can feel the orgasm in my thighs and stomach, a much larger area than usual. They feel like a release of tension, and this release can sometimes be coupled with the physical release of ejaculation. The Pure Wand can also intensify an external vibrator, and I love using it with my Eroscillator for a really unique sensation. I sometimes find the Pure Wand too intense just after orgasm, because even the slightest tilt stimulates my G spot. Orgasms with the Pure Wand aren’t easy, because it is a hefty piece of equipment and take a bit of a toll on my noodle-like arms, but they are easy to make intense. A few well timed thrusts with the Pure Wand can turn a mediocre orgasm into something worth blogging about.

The Pure Wand is less of a sex toy than it is a sex tool. Anything made of stainless steel kind of has to be. Just like you wouldn’t just throw a belt sander around without learning how to use it, the Pure Wand has a serious learning (as well as a literal) curve. It can bring amazing orgasms, but you have to work out how best to bring those about. Of course, this is going to be different for every body, but I have a few tips.

  • Don’t use the Pure Wand if you aren’t aroused, because it is seriously intense if you aren’t ready for it. Because arousal enlarges the G spot, it can feel a bit like aimless jabbing if you aren’t turned on. I feel like I’m turning into a salad spinner if I’m not ready to use the Pure Wand, which makes me feel even more unsexy.
  • Prop your arm up on some pillows or a thigh, because your elbows and shoulders can tire out easily, especially if you’re settling in for a long session.
  • Don’t use the Pure Wand if you’re not ready to put in a bit of work. The neck of the Pure Wand is really thin, which makes thrusting easy, but doesn’t work if you just want to clench around your dildo.
  • Scooping motions feel amazing, but soft jiggles or strokes also work well to warm up. Don’t feel like you have to be thrusting with wild abandon just to get something out of the Pure Wand – some of my best sessions have been relaxed and gentle.
  • Use shallower motions until you work out where your pubic bone is, because the Pure Wand could (quite uncomfortably) hook into it otherwise.
  • Employ a lighter touch when the larger end is inserted, because it’s heavier and covers more surface area.
  • The Pure Wand is known as the ejaculation dildo, but don’t feel like you have to ejaculate every time. G spot orgasms and blended orgasms are just as good! The Pure Wand can provide a variety of different sensations, don’t get caught up in creating only one kind.

The njoy Pure Wand in its boxOf course, the Pure Wand isn’t all sunshine, roses, and ejaculate. It is seriously heavy hunk of metal, and if you have any upper body mobility issues, this is going to exacerbate them. I have a chronic joint condition, especially in my elbows, and some grip issues, and the Pure Wand makes these issues worse, even if I cocoon myself in supportive pillows. It is slightly lighter if the larger end is inserted, because my body supports some of the weight, but I still have difficulties manipulating it. I also only really get use out of half of the dildo. I prefer broad stimulation on my G spot, just like I prefer broad stimulation on my cock, and the smaller end doesn’t provide that. I use it maybe an eighth of the time that I use the Pure Wand. Another thing I find is that the smaller end is more likely to hook onto my pubic bone. Also, for some unknown reason, the Pure Wand tends to make me fart, which is really annoying when I’m trying to put on a show for someone else.

It has to be said, nothing can be assured to give you an orgasm, but there are some toys that are more likely to do so than others. Powerful vibrators, like the Doxy Wand, for example, are more likely to give you an orgasm than weaker ones, like Toyfriend Ticklers. The Pure Wand, I would argue, is more likely to give you an orgasm than any other dildo I own. This dildo is visually appealing, unique, and just works. Of course, if you don’t like G spot stimulation, this dildo isn’t the one for you, but if you do, I think it’s invaluable.

If you’re interested in buying a njoy Pure Wand, you can find one at my favourite stores: Lovehoney (AU, US, UK), Early to Bed (US), Peepshow Toys (US), Good Vibrations (US), SheVibe (US), SheBop (US)

The Fun Factory Amor, stuck to my headboard by the suction cup base.

Fun Factory Amor Review

The Fun Factory Amor and its box.The Fun Factory Amor was my first ever dildo. I bought it from my favourite store, Max Black, after I found out that the Fuze Velvet wasn’t in stock. I was mostly drawn in by the velvety feel of the silicone, which seemed unspeakably luxurious. It has to be said, this is a good quality toy. I spent a good five minutes stroking the demo Amor while browsing other toys, and had really made my decision before I even saw the rest of the dildos on offer. I’ve loved Fun Factory’s funky designs and packaging ever since I first laid eyes on the Amor. Everything about the company is, well, fun. The Amor is small, affordable, semi-realistic, and well-shaped. I was looking for something that was gender affirming, but not grotesque in its realism like some PVC cocks can be. The Amor has a stylised head and a smooth shaft, but doesn’t have vein details. For a while, I’ve been disappointed that I got the Amor in black rather than orange, because the reason Fun Factory is so exciting is precisely because the colours of their toys deviate from the pinks and purples we so often see. It also comes in a pale flesh tone. Everything set the Amor up to be the perfect first dildo, but as well as their unique designs, Fun Factory is notorious for something else – their seriously draggy silicone. The texture that felt so good in my hands doesn’t work for my junk.

There are a lot of good things going for the Amor. I was enticed by it’s curve, vaguely remembering that a curve was good for G spot stimulation. However, the Amor doesn’t naturally reach my G spot, and instead I have to tilt it to make any impact. Clenching does provide some stimulation on my G spot, but dildos like the Mustang don’t need a helping hand. Even while clenching around the Amor, I don’t get the stimulation I prefer. My G spot likes broad stimulation, but the Amor is almost backwards, and the curve ends in a pointed tip rather than the broad, flat surface of a head. This means only a portion of my G spot is stimulated, rather than the whole thing, which leaves me feeling frustrated rather than satisfied. It is also short (only 5.5 inches), which was a
plus for me when I bought it, because I was fairly new to penetration, and sThe Fun Factory Amor, stuck to my headboard by the suction cup base.o was my partner at the time. This remains to be one of the only dildos that I can fit in entirely with no build-up. However, once I’m more aroused, my G spot seems to move further up, so the Amor can fall short at those moments. Another thing I like is the base. The base is an unusual, almost clover shape, which means I can tell which way the curve is pointing when it’s inside me, and it sits well in even the flimsiest of harnesses. It’s a suction cup despite being entirely flat, and sticks to flat surfaces pretty well. It’s resistant to a good tug.

What really ruins the Amor is the texture. I am really sensitive to graininess in both my front hole and my ass, and the Amor is unbearably draggy. I can’t thrust it at all, even after drenching it with lube. This dildo is my goldilocks width of 1.5 inches, but I even warmed up with a larger toy, which seems ridiculous for something so simple in shape. After that, I still wasn’t comfortable with the texture! Even when I just let the Amor sit there while I focused on the porn I was watching and my Mystic Wand, I felt raw. If this toy was even a tenth of an inch bigger, I don’t think I would be able to insert it because of how draggy the silicone is. I think this sensitivity, at least in my front hole, is a side effect of testosterone. My theory is that, because testosterone causes vaginal dryness and thinning of the vaginal walls, I am more bothered by the texture now that I have been on hormones for almost two years. I still had to use heaps of lube when I first used it, but it didn’t feel abrasive like it does now. I know I’m not the only one who is annoyed by Fun Factory’s silicone, but perhaps I am more affected than most. Fun Factory seem to use a different kind for their vibes because I don’t have any problems with my Big Boss, but the Amor is really ruined by it.

The Fun Factory Amor in black, lying on a bed.One place where the Amor does shine is for simulated oral. When I’m sucking on it, the graininess is only annoying rather than bordering on painful. The shape really helps the Amor out in the blowjob department, because it is small enough that I can fit it entirely in my mouth, and the downward curve is much more natural in the mouth. It looks hot as hell to see your partner swallowing down your dick to the base, and this dildo really helps that happen. However, I can imagine the silicone would become a problem again if you have a particularly sensitive gag reflex.

Ultimately, I want to recommend the Amor. It’s simple, only AUD 65, and body safe, which is a good start. The concept of a first dildo is hard to pin down, but from what I understand, it just means basic. So often “basic” just means “bad”, but there are so many good things about the Amor. Sure, it doesn’t suit my specific G spot preferences, but the shape isn’t boring. It isn’t intimidating like I feel realistic dildos sometimes can be. It’s versatile, and can be used for strap on sex, masturbation, and simulated oral. 1.5 inches wide and 5.5 inches long is a pretty reasonable size for vaginal use, in my opinion. The Amor certainly piqued my interest for other dildos, and put me in good stead to buy body safe toys. I just can’t recommend this to anyone unless they know they are ok with Fun Factory’s silicone, because I’m horrified at the thought of someone buying this dildo, finding the silicone too abrasive, and deciding not to try another dildo because of the experience. There are so many other better beginners dildos, like the Fuze Velvet, or the Tantus Acute. Honestly, if you’re considering getting a Fun Factory Amor but haven’t experienced Fun Factory dildos before, get the Tantus Acute. It’s a similar size, price, and shape, but Tantus silicone is glossy rather than matte. I like it immeasurably more.

If you’re interested in buying a Fun Factory Amor, you can find one at my favourite stores: Max Black (AU), Early to Bed (US), Peepshow Toys (US), SheVibe (US)

The BJ Dildo lying on black fabric

Form Function/Number One Labs BJ Dildo Review

The BJ Dildo lying on black fabricAfter you talk to me for an hour or so, it’s pretty obvious I have an oral fixation: I chew on my lips, I bite my fingers, I spend ages checking and reapplying my lipstick. If you have sex with me, it’s obvious in the first few seconds: I adore kissing, I venerate oral sex, and I’m the first one to grab the ball gag. I’m literally salivating now thinking about giving someone a blowjob. But when it comes time for someone to suck me off, I freeze. Because of a combination of OCD issues with wetness/stickiness, and gender dysphoria, I really dislike being on the receiving end of oral. Physically, I’m a fan of the sensation, but I can’t stop the creeping feelings of inadequacy. So to have something that replicates my favourite part of receiving oral while also being incredibly gender affirming? It’s nothing short of a miracle.

The tip of the BJ dildo.The BJ is a hollow dildo with a hole at the tip, so sucking on it delivers suction to the wearer’s clitoris. In order to get the best result for the blowee, the blower really has to focus on sucking, because touching and squeezing doesn’t transfer (but is still very visually appealing!). The sensation of the BJ is similar to clitoral pumping, in that it is arousing, draws blood to the genital area, but doesn’t feel the same as oral sex. You can’t fuck anyone with it, because your partner’s muscles would crush it in a second. Visually it is quite realistic, with prominent veins, and comes in three flesh tones. Though, if you do want something a bit less realistic, there is a fetching teal option. The silicone is fairly grainy, which gives it a bit of drag. While I generally steer clear of draggy silicone for insertables, I don’t mind this because the focus is on sucking, especially on the head. My partner said the texture of the silicone was not an issue for her either, when she used it on me. The suction decreases when they blower moves their mouth further away from the tip, which is not really a downside, because a blowjob would be pretty dull if all sensations were the same. Because of this, though, I found that it was a bit too long, because I find the suction very weak when the dildo is deep in my partner’s mouth. My tips and tricks for the BJ are as follows: Use it without a harness, and hold it with a hand at the base, maybe stroking up and down for some appealing visuals. This allows for a firmer seal, plus the suction is focused in the head, so you don’t really need the bottom-most portion of the dildo. As I’ve said before, focus on the head if you want to give the wearer suction, but don’t shy away from giving a bit of a show. Licking and kissing is sexy even if the blowee can’t feel it.

The base of the BJ dildoThe BJ isn’t perfect, though. I really dislike the large base, because it means that I can’t get a good seal around my cock. The part that rests against my mons pushes the rest of the dildo up, because I have what I consider a fleshy mons. I find the base somewhat distracting during use, and it takes a while for me to ignore this big, seemingly pointless, flap of silicone and imagine that this is my cock that is getting sucked. The hole is also quite large – 1.5 inches across – which does mean that it can accommodate a lot of genital sizes, but that the suction is unfocused. I recognise that my larger-than-average cock would probably be too big for an average-sized hole, so I’m glad the BJ works for me, but it could work better. I find that my labia and the skin surrounding my cock are also sucked up along with it. This is, at best, distracting, and, at worst, painful. The large hole also means that my large outer labia need to be pushed out of the way, and also means, yet again, there isn’t a flat surface to get a good seal. Overall, the sensation of the BJ is less intense than direct sucking on my cock. This is frequently the only kind of oral stimulation I feel comfortable with, but it can sometimes be too intense, so the BJ is a gentle warm up. I have heard that a similar, now discontinued, dildo, the Jollies Mr. Man, had stronger suction than plain mouth-on-clitoris sucking, so if that was what you were looking for, I’m afraid you will be disappointed in the BJ. I would be crazy about the BJ if it didn’t have that flap on the base, had a slightly smaller hole, and was an inch shorter. My partner also finds that when using the BJ on me, the vein on the underside is somewhat distracting. The BJ is also a medium density silicone, so it isn’t as squishy as a flesh and blood penis would be, meaning that you can feel the veins at all times. My partner’s biggest complaint is that because of the poor seal, air comes through the hole, which both pulls her out of the right headspace and attacks her gag reflex. There was also a slight plastic smell on first use, but after a wash that went away.

The Form Function/Number One Labs BJ Dildo is never going to give me an orgasm, but, for once, that’s ok. If you want a gender-affirming dildo to turn your simulated oral into real oral, or if you are interested in suction on your clitoris but find manual suction too intense, this might be the toy for you. If you are looking for something with which to reach orgasm, maybe steer clear of the BJ. I’m not saying it’s impossible to reach orgasm with the BJ, just that you would have to have a very specific vulva shape, and also be quite sensitive. I feel like the BJ was made with the trans community in mind, but you don’t have to be trans to enjoy this dildo. It’s fun and unique, and can provide a whole new dimension to play. The BJ isn’t perfect, but I consider it similar to a binder (which I luckily no longer wear) or a packer. Neither of these things are going to give me orgasms, but that’s not what they’re meant to do. They’re meant to help physically manifest my identity, and make me feel more comfortable with how others perceive me. Not everything in sex has to be about getting or giving orgasms, but if it’s pleasurable, I don’t see why it would be a bad thing. I could get a simulated blowjob with any of my flesh-toned dildos, but being able to actually feel some of what is happening is something I have wanted for years. While the BJ delivers that weakly, with a few distracting downsides, it is the only dildo still in production that does what it does, so it still has a place in my heart.

If you’re interested in buying a BJ Dildo, you can find one at my favourite stores: Early to Bed (US), Good Vibrations (US), SheBop (US)

The Uncut 2 lying in grass.

Short Stuff: Tantus Uncut 2 Review

The Uncut 2 standing upright in a garden pot.I’ve always thought that if I had a penis of my own, it would be uncut. I’m from Australia, so the majority of peens here are uncut anyway, but I’ve also always liked the aesthetics of uncut penises, especially the little beanie effect that a foreskin can give when soft. I’m really into the uncut dildos and packers that are coming out now, like the Tantus Uncut 1 and 2, the New York Toy Collective Ellis, the Fuze Foreman, and the New York Toy Collective Pierre packer. Even my beloved Mustang has a stylised foreskin rolled beneath the head. I’ve heard rave reviews of the Uncut 1, but 1.75 inches of girth is a little too ambitious for me at the moment, so I went with the smaller, 1.6 inch Uncut 2.

The Uncut 2 is made of Tantus’ dual density O2 silicone, which is not as soft as other dual density toys I have tried, but still has a nice squish. I find that most of the squish is located in the head, with the shaft remaining fairly firm. The only other O2 dildo I have used is the Tantus Cush, and I can feel the dual density internally much more with the Uncut 2 because I am not as stretched. The Uncut 2 doesn’t have a very drastic curve, and the coronal ridge isn’t very pronounced, so I feel a gentle tugging on my G spot when using it. The G spot stimulation isn’t fantastic, so I find that the Uncut 2 is better for thrusting. Its shorter length and soft outer layer mean that I don’t need to worry about bumping my cervix too hard, and the bulbous head being larger than the rest of the shaft means that my vaginal walls can contract and move around the dildo as I thrust it. I do find the realistic texture to be especially lube-hungry, so I would recommend using a more gel-like lube, like Sliquid Sassy (which I use all the time anyway), even during vaginal use.

A closeup of the uncut head of the Uncut 2, lying in grass.

A lot of people have said that the Uncut 1 has become their new favourite dildo, but I can’t say the same for the Uncut 2. I like direct G spot stimulation even when I’m not trying for a G spot orgasm, and the Uncut 2 doesn’t provide that. I can feel some pressure and rubbing on my G spot when I angle it right, but the Uncut 2 requires pretty vigorous thrusting to elicit fairly ordinary responses. What I love about the Uncut 2 is that 1.6 inches is an unordinary size, and I can use it as I work my way up to something bigger like the Tantus Cush or the Fun Factory Big Boss. Overall, I feel pretty neutral about the Uncut 2. It’s exciting to see a body safe dildo with a foreskin, and the ad copy doesn’t promise anything this dildo can’t deliver, but it doesn’t stimulate me in the ways I prefer to be stimulated. Sensation-wise, there is nothing that sets the Uncut 2 at the head of the pack, in my opinion. If you like the feel of Tantus O2, aren’t too keen on direct G spot stimulation, or like to thrust your dildos pretty intensely, maybe the Uncut 2 would be a star for you. I, however, do not fit most of those criteria, so while there isn’t anything massively wrong with the Uncut 2, it is not a stand-out in my collection. A lot of people have said that the Uncut 1 has become their new favourite dildo, but I can’t say the same for the Uncut 2. I like direct G spot stimulation even when I’m not trying for a G spot orgasm, and the Uncut 2 doesn’t provide that. I can feel some pressure and rubbing on my G spot when I angle it right, but the Uncut 2 requires pretty vigorous thrusting to elicit fairly ordinary responses. What I love about the Uncut 2 is that 1.6 inches is an unordinary size, and I can use it as I work my way up to something bigger like the

If you’re interested in buying a Tantus Uncut 2, you can find one at my favourite stores: Peepshow Toys (US), Tantus (US), SheVibe (US), SheBop (US)

The blue, pink and orang Vixen Creations Mustang lying on a table.

Vixen Creations Mustang Review

The blue, pink and orang Vixen Creations Mustang standing upright on a table.When I bought the Vixen Creations Mustang, I was honestly only thinking about aesthetics. I had already tried two dual density dildos and wasn’t wow’ed by the texture, so I thought that a third dildo wouldn’t change that. What drew me to the Mustang was the idea of a realistic dildo in a non-realistic colour. Previously, my primary consideration in dildos was “How will this feel when I’m strapping on?”, with my own use a secondary consideration. Now, though, I buy dildos for myself and any strap on use they see is an added bonus. So, I wanted something that looked pretty, and that meant a deviation from the pale flesh tones I used to prefer. When I received the Mustang, for that reason, I was disappointed. Rather than a mixture of different colours, the colours on my Mustang were three very straight, discrete lines. There were no waves, and only a few flecks of a different colour interspersed between the big blocks. But the Mustang has sky rocketed, against the odds, to my favourite dildo. Over time, I’ve even started to love the colours. While they aren’t intermingled perfectly, they still look lovely in natural light, and are bright and inviting. In my end of 2016 post, I wrote that I felt guilty about liking squishy dildos. First of all, most marketing says that these dildos are more “realistic”, and I loathe the implication – or sometimes outright statement – that dildos can somehow replace a flesh and blood person. But mostly, it’s the feeling that softer dildos are somehow juvenile, that I should have moved on. If my goal is G-spot orgasm, I adore my literally hard-as-nails njoy Pure Wand, but if I’m just relaxing, I usually want something softer, and dual density does the trick. Another thing that should make me and the Mustang incompatible is that fundamentally, I am a lazy masturbator. I pick the strongest vibrator and the closest dildo, and I get the job done quick. Now that I’m growing my collection, I try to opt for something with a bit more finesse, or with an interesting sensation, like the Pure Wand or the Eroscillator, but that has to be a conscious choice. If left to my natural inclinations, it’s just me, a set it and forget it dildo, and the Doxy Wand. There are two things to notice about the Vixen Creations Mustang – I have to clean it every damn time, and I use it anyway.

The blue, pink and orang Vixen Creations Mustang lying on a table.So why do I keep coming back? First of all, I was wrong about all dual density toys being the same. I love the Mustang’s squish. I think Vixen Creations’ Vixskin is softer than Tantus O2, but with a thinner outer layer than on the New York Toy Collective pack and plays. Because of this, I don’t like the Mustang as a set it and forget it dildo as much as I like the Shilo for that purpose. There is less for my PC muscles to squeeze around, so I need to thrust it for the best experience. The Mustang, instead, shines in the way it interacts with my G spot. The Mustang is very adept at finding my G spot, with a very pronounced curve, and it gives me a gentler kind of stimulation than I get from something hard like the Pure Wand. It gives me the pressure I want from a G spot toy, but without the worry of accidentally jabbing the wrong spot or catching on my pubic bone. Also, the Mustang stimulates the rest of my vaginal walls with its perfect size. 1.5 inches is an easy feat for me without warm up, feeling just full enough, without any pain on insertion. Even though the Shilo and the Mustang are the same size, I don’t feel like I need to upsize after a while of using the Mustang. Sure, it can help if I want to use something like the Tantus Cush, but most of the time I’m happy with just using the Mustang alone. Another plus to the Mustang is the part just under the head that looks like a folded down foreskin, which A close up of the head and foreskin of the Vixen Creations Mustang.rubs against my vaginal walls when the head is focused on my g spot. This is a nice bit of texture that stimulates a sensitive part of my body that often goes ignored. I want more dildo manufacturers to give some thought to the rest of the front vaginal walls other than the G spot, because there are still a lot of pleasurable sensations that can originate in that area. The ridge under the foreskin gives the same tugging sensation that I get from a coronal ridge, so it doesn’t have to just rely on the texture of the dildo alone. I love thrusting with the Mustang, because the combination of the G spot curve, the extra stimulation for the front walls, and the softness of Vixskin means that I get the best of of the dildo when it’s moving.

Just a note on cleaning: the Mustang has a somewhat sticky texture, and attracts dust and hair like no dildo I have ever seen. I need to wash it before use, and give it a thorough scrub with a soft toothbrush afterwards, to clean out the fine texture. However, it is quality silicone, and can be boiled to be disinfected. If you are going to use the Mustang, you have to be prepared to clean it, but I love it enough that I’m able to get over this downside. Another thing that is a little annoying is that the Mustang is equipped with a suction cup, but I find that this suction cup is entirely defunct, as it fails after a few seconds, even on something as smooth as a mirror. It provides some suction on a flat surface when gravity is working with it, but I find the angle is a bit awkward then, and the Mustang doesn’t follow the natural curve of my vaginal canal.

If 1.5 inches is your girth sweet spot too, you like softer materials but haven’t tried Vixskin, or you’re craving a softer kind of G spot stimulation, the Mustang is right up your alley. I honestly think that if I had to choose one dildo for life, this would be it.

If you’re interested in buying a Vixen Creations Mustang, you can find one at my favourite stores: Lovehoney (AU, US, UK), Early to Bed (US), Good Vibrations (US), Peepshow Toys (US), SheBop (US), SheVibe (US)

The New York Toy Collective Shilo lying down.

New York Toy Collective Shilo Review

The New York Toy Collective Shilo standing uprightShipping is the bane of my Australian existence. I hate the waiting, I hate the “will it even get here” stress, and I hate the price. But, the fact is, my local sex shop is not omnipotent, and they don’t stock every sex toy I could possibly want, so shipping costs are a necessary evil. It added almost a third of the price to the New York Toy Collective Shilo, leading me to believe that I would never own it. That was, until I found the Slinky Minx. An Australian store! That stocked NYTC! I was in heaven.

Why was I so anxious to own the Shilo? Well, the Shilo seems to be the best pack-and-play dildo on the market. It has an inner posable core that makes it much more flexible than other pack-and-play dildos, avoiding the awkward half-boner that I’ve seen with dildos like the Tantus Pack-and-Plays. NYTC has enticing videos of people wearing their toys with hardly any bulge at all. The thought of wearing a dildo out for the whole day and being able to head home and just dive straight into sex is a luxury I never thought I’d have, but now it’s entirely possible.

The Shilo’s packaging is pretty uninspiring. In retrospect, for AUD 200, I wanted a box with at least a ribbon or something. It comes in what is essentially a zip lock bag with a little sticker on the front telling you which NYTC product is inside (which you already know because the bag is… clear). But when I first saw the Shilo sitting on my girlfriend’s desk, the packaging was the furthest thing from my mind. I pulled it out of the package and immediately had it in my hands. The Shilo is just as squishy as it’s promised to be, and I don’t find the harder inner core to be particularly noticeable when squeezing it in my hands, except just underneath the frenulum. It bended easily, and I wasn’t worried that it was going to snap under my hands. The realism is very impressive, with serious skin detail, and slight but visible veins.

The Shilo performs well when packing. I like a noticeable bulge even when soft packing, so I was able to achieve that, but it folds right between the legs to provide a much more subtle effect. I found that my legs pushed it around a little, so it became straighter in my pants, but my jeans are usually quite tight, so saved me from any awkward boner situations. However, you have to wear the Shilo with a normal harness rather than a packing harness, so you need a really comfortable harness if you’re going to be wearing it throughout the day. I haven’t used it with a RodeoH, but I imagine that would be the best option, or some other soft fabric harness like the Joque. Otherwise, I find that the combo of the Shilo, the leather straps, and the sweat makes a quick recipe for chafe.

A close up of the New York Toy Collective Shilo's headAt first, I didn’t love the Shilo when I used it vaginally. However, after a few attempts, I’ve found the right formula that makes the Shilo work for me. I find I have to be aroused before I start using the Shilo, so that my G-spot is a little more prominent, and that I have to thrust, so that the coronal ridge catches onto my G-spot and pulls at it. The head is a lot larger than it looks in photos, which aids this kind of tugging. This stimulation is quite gentle, but enough for an enjoyable addition to external stimulation. If I thrust too hard, the Shilo entirely straightens out, so it is not ideal if you need a pronounced curve to get G-spot or prostate stimulation. I also like to use the Shilo as a “set it and forget it” dildo, because the softer silicone is really fun to clench around. Although, sometimes I want something thicker after I’ve used it for a while, because while the Shilo is at my sweet spot of 1.5 inches in diameter, it feels a lot smaller in use because of the squishier silicone. I also expected the Shilo to be draggy because of its skin-like texture, but I found that it was easy to insert with sparing amount of a thin lube.

I’m going to deviate a little from the usual form of my reviews, and talk about how this dildo stands up when I’m fucking someone else. That was my original intention when buying the Shilo, and the appeal of a pack-and-play dildo is that you eventually get to fuck someone with it. I found that the bendiness made it hard to insert becThe New York Toy Collective Shilo lying down.ause the dildo would turn away from my girlfriend’s ass in a way that firmer dildos don’t, so I had to really concentrate on lining it up. I’ve heard from other reviews that the bendiness of the Shilo stops it from slipping out so much, but I found the opposite was true during rear-entry positions. It came out so much more often than, say, the Velvet did. In missionary, however, it stayed in well, but I find this is true of the position with most dildos. The base of the Shilo isn’t squishy, but I found it comfortable on my mons, and it didn’t bruise even after vigorous fucking. My girlfriend liked it plenty, and didn’t find that it poked her uncomfortably at any point, as other dildos of this length can.

The Shilo is nothing special when it comes to fucking, but if you want a pack and play dildo, in my opinion, there’s no competition. There’s something incredibly satisfying to being able to fuck on a minutes notice, and there’s an undeniable anticipation that comes with hard packing. If you want a dildo that is comfortable to wear and to fuck with, I don’t think you can go past the Shilo. It’s hardly my favourite dildo, but if I lost it somehow, I’d buy another one in a heartbeat.

If you’re interested in buying a New York Toy Collective Shilo, you can find one at my favourite stores: The Slinky Minx (AU), Early to Bed (US), SheBop (US), SheVibe (US)

Fuze Velvet Review

velvet-1It felt like every time I went into my local sex shop, the Fuze Velvet was sold out. When the shop attendant was trying to help me find a substitute, she asked what I liked most about the Fuze. The answer was “um… everything!” I loved the texture, the shape, the colour, the ridges on the back. I ended up with the Fun Factory Amor Stub, but that didn’t satiate my desire for the Velvet. The thing that kept bringing me back to the Velvet was the promise of stimulation for the wearer during strap on sex. I was a real newbie to strap on sex – I didn’t even own a proper harness – but I already knew that I wouldn’t be able to orgasm from the pressure of a traditional base alone. The Velvet, and its siblings from the Fuze Dildo and the Fuze Ten collections all feature ridges that press up against the wearer’s genitals to give friction while they are penetrating a partner. There is also a slot for a bullet vibrator near the base, which can stimulate both people if the vibrator is strong enough. Receiving pleasure during strap on sex is really important to me as a transmasculine person, and it helps me feel more connected to my partner. I saved up, and after a long wait, (check your junk mail for emails from Early to Bed, people!) my friend and I received our matching dildos in the mail.

velvet-2I would endorse the Velvet if you are looking for your first strap on toy, with a few caveats. On the plus side, it’s USD 48 from Early to Bed, or about AUD 65, which I think is a pretty reasonable price for a silicone, body safe dildo. It’s only 1 inch in diameter and 5.5 inches long, which means it is very slim and not intimidating for anal use. However, I would only use the Velvet anally when paired with a harness, because the base isn’t very flared, so it could get sucked into the anal cavity. The silicone itself is very smooth, rather than glossy or draggy, but is a bit of a lint magnet, as most silicone is. The colour has a lovely sheen when wet, which makes lubing it up a pleasure every time. However, you should only get the Fuze if you already have or intend to buy a good quality harness with an interchangeable smaller sized o-ring, and a good quality bullet vibe. The harness has to sit over your clitoris rather than on your pubic mound so that the base makes good contact with your genitals. For example, I can’t get the Fuze to work with my Cal Exotics Packer Gear Boxers because the o-ring is too big. It won’t work with my Wild Hide Maxie harness because it won’t sit comfortably over my genitals. When I first used the Velvet, I had a DIY harness with the right sized o-ring, but with an average, non-rigorous thrusting, it would be pushed back into the harness. I find that the Aslan Jaguar harness (with a new, smaller o-ring) is the best option, and it makes for a really natural silhouette because of the way the Velvet curves up from my crotch. Another consideration is whether you have a problem with pressure and friction on your genitals. I’ve always loved pretty strong pressure, but when I first used the Velvet before hormones, it was uncomfortable without a thick lube between my cock and the base. After two years on hormones, though, I don’t mind more intense friction.

On the receiving end, my girlfriend enjoys the Velvet, and says it hits her g-spot when I wield it correctly. I also find that when using the Velvet manually, I can easily angle the head to hit my g-spot, but personally find that the head isn’t broad enough for my tastes, and the shaft is too thin. My girlfriend can feel the ridges on the shaft during use, and they aren’t particularly pleasurable or particularly painful, but I find them to be quite stimulating around my entrance when I use it. She also prefers softer silicone, and when there’s a dual stimulating, dual density dildo, I’ll be all over it, but the Velvet wasn’t uncomfortable. We also found that the shaft was a bit short for some positions, but our staples of missionary and cowgirl were easily achieved. So, while the shorter length may be a plus for beginners, it can be a bit frustrating for more experienced strappers. Another downside during use is trying to find the right bullet vibe. The cheapo watch battery bullet I bought from Early to Bed was buzzy and difficult to pull out of the cavity after use, but the We-Vibe Tango is the exact opposite. The Tango is known for its rumbly vibrations, which really translates when I’m wearing the Velvet. However, it is much longer than the Velvet’s vibrator hole, and frequently falls out while I’m fucking. This problem is alleviated somewhat if I’m on my back, but that minimises the friction of the ridges on my cock and means I play a less active role in sex. The shaft carries the Tango’s vibrations well, and my girlfriend could feel them while I was fucking her. No dildo with a vibe in the base is going to be as strong as an out-and-out insertable vibrator, but it is a nice addition to sex.

velvet-3“What about the most important part!”, I hear you ask. “Can the Velvet make you orgasm?” Well, no, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love it, or that it won’t work for you. It takes a lot of side-to-side stimulation for me to orgasm manually, and a fair amount of focus for me to orgasm with something like the Tango. I do feel more in touch with what’s going on when I’m wearing the Velvet, though, and I’m sufficiently worked up when it’s my turn. I think that there’s a significant societal pressure upon sexual partners to orgasm simultaneously, but this just isn’t feasible for a lot of people, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s fine to take turns, and I’m trying to learn that sex shouldn’t be so goal oriented, because that makes it harder to actually reach an orgasm. Saying that, I’m still excited to try the Velvet and the Tantus Realdoe after using a cock pump, which is a tip I learnt from Karlyn Lotney’s The Ultimate Guide to Strap On Sex. However, if you find it easy to orgasm from manual stimulation or you don’t need strong vibrations to get off, then the Velvet may just bring you that fabled strap on orgasm. I think overall, the Velvet is a great idea that is executed well. Other Fuze toys employ the same basic concept but with a variety of colours (though unfortunately only in a Caucasian skin tone at the moment) and widths, meaning that you can probably find a dildo that is the perfect fit for you and your partner.

If you’re interested in buying a Fuze Velvet, you can find one at my favourite stores: Early to Bed (US), SheBop (US), SheVibe (US)

Tantus Cush O2 Review

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I’ve had a conflicted history with the Tantus Cush O2. I bought it with my Christmas money in July of last year, (2015) after lusting after it for almost a year. I’d read every review I could find, I’d held and poked it multiple times in my local sex shop, I’d told friends and partners all about it. It finally arrived in the mail, in a glorious silky purple that Tantus call Twilight, (the blue was out of stock) and I instantly fell in love.

The first time I used it, I was a little anxious, because it was bigger than anything I had ever used. But all I had to do was breathe and relax, and with the help of a bit of lube, it slid right in. I enjoyed the showing off, proving that I could take something with such a significant circumference, and the Cush soon took up residence in my bedside table, and I never thought twice before reaching for it. It was my dream dildo, pressing against my G-spot and giving a wonderful stretch. But I had only been taking hormones for 6 months, and my second puberty wasn’t yet over. Testosterone causes vaginal dryness, and I suspect lead to my vagina becoming tighter and less accommodating. I found that suddenly, overnight, I could no longer use the Cush. It hurt. I tore. I felt defeated. I had aspirations of being a size king, of owning dildos like the Vixen Randy and vibrators like the Fun Factory Big Boss. The Tantus Cush sat neglected in my toy drawer for over a year, until in August of this year. I was using the Tantus Acute. (Yes, I’m a slut for Tantus.) I felt loose, and like I wanted something more substantial to clench around. So I got up, and rooted through my toy drawer to find the Cush. I was wary, I wasn’t getting my hopes up, but I thought I might as well try. There was a moment of discomfort, but then there it was again – the eye-rolling fullness, the G-spot pressure. It felt like the moment you start to recognise your surroundings in the dark. Before then, masturbation for me was a one vibrator, one dildo deal. I’d never thought I’d need a warm up toy before. Now, I actually enjoy the gradual increase in size, and I can spend more time to really appreciate each toy. The Vixen Creations Mustang is a perfect step between the Acute and the Cush. The Tantus Cush has not returned to my bedside table, but I’m no longer scared to use it.

The Tantus O2 Cush is 7 inches in length, and 1.75 inches in diameter. This puts it on the larger end of dildos, and is to date the largest dildo I own. It comes in a Tantus-standard plastic box, the kind with a little viewing window, but without a toy bag. I keep the Cush in its original box, but it’s certainly quite scuffed after a year of more or less frequent use. It is a dual density dildo, meaning there is a softer outer layer of silicone, and a harder core. The softer white layer gives the dildo the lovely milky colour that I adored when I first saw it. This dual density is meant to make it feel more “realistic”, which I don’t think it does, but it is a much more forgiving dildo than others of its size, because it is softer and has more give. The Cush is fairly long and does hit my cervix if I’m not careful, but it’s so soft that this is rarely painful. The shape is semi-realistic, in that it looks vaguely like a penis but doesn’t have representative veins or come in any flesh tones. I personally like this cush-2because I find the “head” is good for g-spotting and I enjoy the sensation of more flared heads than of rounded ones. What breaks from the realism is the second ridge about two thirds of the way down the shaft. I’m not a fan of this ridge. Most of the time, it bumps just at my entrance, which can be at least uncomfortable, and at worst painful. I don’t find it particularly stimulating on the off occasion that I can get the Cush that far inside of me, but I enjoy the texture of the underside. I also find that the base is a odd to hold because it’s an uneven thickness, so when I thrust the Cush I generally use the portion of the shaft that won’t fit inside me. Nowadays, the Cush is more a “set it and forget it” dildo for me, which makes for some lazy masturbation sessions. Theoretically, this base means it’s harness compatible, but I once put it in a harness for simulated oral, and it was so heavy that it sagged downwards and pressed uncomfortably against my pelvic bone, so I imagine it would be even harder to penetrate someone with, and quite uncomfortable for the wielder.

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This dildo is not a beginners dildo, and it’s not for someone who doesn’t know their limits. At USD85 or about AUD110, it’s not something a poor uni student like myself can buy without a bit of thought, but it’s cheaper than dual density dildos that are of a similar size. (the Vixskin Maverick, for example.) I love Tantus as a brand. They’re committed to quality, body safe toys, and their range is constantly growing. The prices aren’t nothing, but they aren’t exorbitant, and I’m willing to pay a bit of money for something that comes with a unique and appreciable texture. I always feel confident buying a Tantus toy, and the O2 range is no different. If you want to try something dual density, but not as large, go for the Flurry O2. In my opinion, the Tantus Cush O2 is still a no-brainer if you’re looking to upsize. It’s not without its downsides, but I still love it and think it’s well worth the challenge.

If you’re interested in buying a Tantus Cush O2, you can find one at my favourite stores: Peepshow Toys (US), Tantus (US), SheVibe (US)